Methods of combating words with parasites. How to get rid of parasitic words on your own. Doesn't make a good impression
However, not all words become such. In fact, prepositions and conjunctions, verbs, nouns and adjectives never act as such verbal tricks. Basically, these are words with a weak lexical meaning: particles (modal - perhaps, comparative - as if, interrogative - Yes summarizing - well, affirmative - So, index - here); pronouns ( it's the most, there like it); introductory words ( as a matter of fact, of course, it seems, probably, so to speak, in general, you understand, probably, in general, in principle, means, in short, let's say, for example, therefore, listen).
Also, people with whom you communicate most often can help identify garbage in your speech. Ask someone who hears you often and regularly (one of your family members, friends or colleagues) to monitor the purity of your speech.
There is an opinion that you can simply replace the “intrusive” word with a close one in meaning (for example, you constantly pronounce the word “probably”, it can be replaced by the words “I suppose”, “maybe”, “probably”, etc.).
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“This is the most” - such a phrase is often repeated by lazy people who, at the first opportunity, will dump their duties on someone. In difficult situations, such people often avoid punishment by shifting responsibility to another.
“Actually” is a word, again, of the insecure. The peculiarity of these people is the ability to throw a scandal for any reason.
“In short” is the lot of nervous, always in a hurry people. Most often, "shorter" is found in the speech of quick-tempered choleric people.
“In fact,” say interlocutors who put their opinion first, self-confident, boring. They are ready to prove their case until they foam at the mouth. They like to read notations, consider their inner world bright and unique.
“So”, “like” - people who are prone to aggression, as well as conservatives, use it.
"Simple" - often found in the conversation of a person dependent on the opinions of others. Such people like to look for problems from scratch, they are afraid of responsibility, they often make excuses.
CONCLUSIONS:
To defuse, you must first find.
How to find?
- Turn on the voice recorder or camera and retell the content of your favorite movie or book, and then listen to the recording.
- Ask relatives or friends to listen to you and report on the results
- You can come to our Oratory Club and ask for feedback.
a) Words and groups of words that can be safely deleted from speech without loss of meaning
a.1) Primitive words.
Examples of these words are illustrated by a cheerful poem by E. Moshkovskaya:
Once upon a time there lived this one, like him,
Well, that means that
This very thing lived
With my mom.
There was another weirdo
In general, this means
And his beloved brother-in-law.
The name of the son-in-law
So to speak.
And his wife's name was...
And the neighbor's name was...
And his parents
You see
And you see...
And some other uh-uh
Lived on the top floor...
And they were all friends...
Well, that means, and in general.
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Reading
Read more recognized masters of the word. Reading develops speech very well, because it not only replenishes our vocabulary, but also deposits in our minds the structure of statements, which we, without noticing it, then use in our speech.
Expressive reading aloud
With it, you can expand vocabulary, hone diction and intonation, improve speech style.
Just don't scare your neighbors by passionately reading the ingredients of an air freshener. Talk to fiction containing graceful turns and refined vocabulary. Read a few books, choose your favorite and stick with it. With regular reading aloud, the angularity of speech, tongue-tied language and clumsy expressions will disappear, the speech style will improve and the speech itself will become more beautiful.
retelling
Retell the text in detail. When doing this, use the words used in the original text. This is how you activate passive vocabulary. Many words and expressions are known to us, but are not used in speech. And since the passive vocabulary exceeds the active one, by regularly referring to it, we enrich our speech with new words.
You can also retell films, jokes, stories, make congratulatory speeches. It can be on a dictaphone, or it can be for a live audience.
Personal dictionary of interesting words
Periodically re-read your "dictionary" of interesting phrases, witty expressions, non-standard combinations and individual words that you encounter. Remember these words and use them more often when communicating with people.
Synonym selection
Choose synonyms for words while reading the text. At the same time, try not to damage the meaning of the text.
Brevity is the soul of wit.
Less quantity, more quality. Most often, such words are used in large and voluminous speeches. Try not to pour water. The shorter your speech, the more informative and interesting it will be for your listeners.
Posters
Suitable for newfangled slang words
Try pasting paper sheets around the room with “extra words” written on them large. After a few days of actively looking at them, you quickly desire will disappear not just to say the word, but even to think about it!
It is very difficult to communicate with interlocutors whose speech is full of such words, so many people work hard on themselves.
First, when you make a short pause of two to three seconds, you automatically, on a subconscious level, in your mind choose the phrases you need, logically related to the main topic of the conversation.
Reception number 2. Holding the breath
If you suddenly feel a great temptation to insert some unnecessary word into your speech, you need to control yourself by taking a big breath. This action will result in an unintentional pause that can be used to further build your future phrases. This pause will look much better than using words like: in short, well, as it were, that is, this is the most, um.
Reception number 3. Side control
Reception number 4. Forced stops in speech
You need to train yourself to pause at the right place. If earlier instead you had a stream of unnecessary phrases and phrases, you need to learn to “hold your horses”, because, according to a well-known saying, silence is golden. If an awkward situation arises or when the topic of the dialogue has completely exhausted itself, a minute's silence will come to the rescue. And there are a lot of advantages in this silence:
First, with a short stop, your attention automatically focuses on the further continuation of the story.
Secondly, many people begin to digest the information they hear only after a short pause, which you will help them with.
If you do not know if there are such unnecessary phrases and sounds in your speech, ask your loved ones for help. Have them point out your "problem" words. Or record your conversation with someone on a voice recorder, and then listen to it. If, in addition to important phrases, there are also constant “shorter” and “you know”, it is worth starting work on cleaning up your own speech.
Before you go on the warpath with your own language, figure out how often and which words to eradicate.
On your own or with the help of your relatives, determine which of the words you need to impose a ban on.
Spend time reading classic literature.
Unfortunately, everything is now more people prefer to spend free time in social networks. And there are so many interlocutors who make three mistakes in one word. These countless "I say those" and "like" can migrate into your speech. At least from time to time (for example, on weekends) read the great Russian authors: Pushkin, Chekhov, Turgenev. While reading, pay attention to the construction of sentences, how rich the Russian language really is without “shorter” and “e”.
Find a passage of text from a book that you have never read.
If you have an important conversation, plan your speech in advance. What will you say first, what will you say at the end. What questions will you have to answer. When emotions run high, take your time to say “well” or “that”. It is better to be silent for a while, and then continue the conversation.
Get help.
Ask your spouse (comrade, colleague) to stop you every time during a conversation as soon as he hears a “bad” word. This will make it easier not to miss unwanted phrases.
Introduce elements of the game into the cleaning of speech.
Naturally, at home or among friends, warning others about the goals pursued. You will soon get tired of such a speech transformation into a puppy or lamb. And you will begin to express yourself clearly, without unnecessary pretexts and adverbs.
Decide which of the famous people you like.
Who would you like to take as an example from? Suppose you are close to a famous actor, politician, musician. Find interviews with him online. Listen to how clearly this person expresses his thoughts. And then imagine if through the word in his speech it would sound "well, this is, as they say." Try to listen to smart and well-rounded people.
Don't rely solely on your memory.
Treat the work on eliminating unwanted phrases with a grain of salt.
Even the most harmless phrase, which is pronounced a hundred times a day, can irritate interlocutors and prevent you from expressing your thoughts correctly.
"Fashionable" words ("respect", "crazy", "kapets", etc.)
it is better to replace with more detailed phrases that reflect your impression of what you saw (heard). For example, instead of the phrase “Your essay turned out cool, respect to you,” say: “Your essay was interesting to read, you are great.”
The phrases and words “e-mine”, “damn”, “Ezhkin cat” are veiled curses.
If something out of the ordinary happened, speak out in detail and clearly. For example, “Damn, how sick of everything” is replaced with “how sad it is that I have to spend the weekend at home again because of the bad weather.”
If you are addressing a 2-year-old child, it’s not so bad, but it’s still better to call an adult by their first name. At least in society.
The words "so", "like", "as if", "in short"
it is better either not to use it at all, or to replace them with other phrases and prepositions (adverbs, conjunctions, nouns, etc.). Instead of "No, in short, I'm not going to the party, like I'm sick," say "I'm going to plead sick and not going to the party." The phrase "Listen, Marina, I'll go to Misha tomorrow, it's like his birthday" is better to correct in "Marina, I'm going to Misha's birthday tomorrow."
Drawl "uh-uh" or "mmm" between phrases
better to be replaced by silence.
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Every person, at least a cultured and intelligent person, tries to follow the nature of his speech, because the ability to concisely and competently express his thoughts in modern world hard to underestimate. But, unfortunately, in most cases, we simply do not notice exactly how we talk.
Then comes the most difficult thing - preparing the "soil" for eradication. And it consists in increasing the value of your own words. How to do it? Catching yourself on a "harmful" expression of speech, immediately add some absurdity: meow like a cat, crow. Try to do this even when you are in a circle of not very close friends, in front of whom you will be ashamed. Make yourself look even more stupid.
The same principle can be approached from the other side, but you may need an assistant. Record something nasty and annoying on the recorder, for example, a loud beep, and ask your loved one to turn it on when he (or you yourself) notices a “miss”. Be prepared for constant “jokes” from relatives - they will become pretty annoying, but at the same time motivate.
You can also practice recording your own oral conversations for subsequent careful analysis, which will help you understand how to replace the "emptiness", how to make sentences more concise, imaginative and at the same time not too long.
