Where to start looking for the man of your dreams. How to find the man of your dreams? The most difficult but most important piece of advice: to meet the man of your dreams, become the woman of his life.

“There are no real men left. All normal men are already busy,” lonely girls often share their experiences in private conversations with each other.

How to find your love among the thousands of men we pass by every day? Where to meet that one, ideal man with whom you will feel truly happy? How not to make a mistake in choosing a young man? You can rely on fate and bad luck for years, but it’s more effective to take on the construction of your happiness yourself. Womanlove project consultant Mikhail Shirin shared valuable information for every girl on how to avoid mistakes in choosing a partner, how to find the man of your dreams.

Who is the ideal man?
The desire to combine the incongruous is a problem that gets in the way of building harmonious relationships for most girls. Looking for perfect man we often try to embrace the immensity, meet a superman without flaws. At the same time, we want the guy to be the leader in the relationship and at the same time fulfill all our whims; had a good financial position, a high position and paid attention to us 24 hours a day; had his own opinion, knew how to defend it, but also agreed with us in everything.

Every woman has in her mind sample list the qualities that the man of her dreams should have. As a rule, in choosing a partner, attention is paid to the appearance of a young man, his personal qualities, social status, interests, hobbies, social circle. However, it is important to understand that meeting a young man endowed with all the qualities we have invented is very difficult, and in some cases simply unrealistic.

This does not mean that you need to give up your dreams and agree to build relationships with the first person you meet. Rather, we are talking about the fact that it is necessary to filter out the criteria by which we choose a man. In other words, it is important to decide which qualities are more significant for us and must be present in a man, which qualities are desirable, which characteristics, in principle, can be abandoned. It should be borne in mind that the more mandatory qualities we exhibit, the fewer men fit this image of the ideal man that we have built.

At this time, other women, who are not so picky in choosing a young man, reduce the number of potentially free men for relationships with their positive response. It is logical to assume that the sooner we get rid of the categoricalness that limits us, the more choice we will have. The easier it is to find the right man get rid of loneliness.

It is important to remember that, along with the qualities of a man that are priority for you, other features will not be expressed as clearly or not at all. A man can have the characteristics of only one person. No one can combine the features of several diverse people.

For example, wanting to build a relationship with a careerist man, it is naive to count on frequent calls and daily meetings. The number of hours in a day is limited. Many girls often forget about this and begin to make claims to their partner, accuse him of inattention, selfishness. Although initially the girl agreed to build relationships with this young man. There are not many options for the development of events. A man can sacrifice his work for the sake of his beloved. But in this situation, he will most likely cease to be as attractive, because initially a high position was important for a girl. A more common situation is when a man, exhausted by the conflicting demands of a woman, faced with a misunderstanding of his lifestyle, ends such a relationship with a break.

It is a big mistake to start a relationship with a man, hoping to "blind" him for yourself. As a rule, cardinal changes in character are not characteristic of adults, and a girl’s desire to change a guy only causes irritation in him. The re-education of a man often ends in a loss of comfort in a relationship for both and subsequent separation.

Where to meet your love?
To meet your love, you need to decide what kind of man you want to find. Globally, representatives of the opposite sex are divided into two types. The first type is attentive, caring, aimed at family relationships young people. The second type is independent, successful with women, possessing charisma, men who do not burden themselves with serious relationships. Additional criteria in choosing a partner, there may be wishes for his hobbies, social status, profession, social circle. The more clearly you imagine who you want to find, the easier it is to decide where to look.

For example, men who are focused on family relationships are most likely to be found in pubs, restaurants located not far from their place of work, where they come in the evening with colleagues to relax from a hard day. These are the men who do not seek noisy companies, a large number acquaintances. They feel most comfortable in a circle of friends or at home with a book in an armchair.

Men striving for leadership in society, who want to stand out qualitatively from total weight Those who love to be in the center of attention, it is more correct to look for in the fashionable institutions of the city. They are always where beautiful women and status men are. These are the men who always have someone to spend a free evening with, they are always in sight.

It is more efficient to look for creative men in places where people of art congregate: in theaters, art galleries, at concert venues. It is easy to meet an athlete in the gym, on the court, at the ski resort. In search of a man interested in nanotechnology, it is more logical to go to conferences and scientific exhibitions.

If you are focused on finding a man from a particular environment, then you need to have access to his social circle. Of course, one can hope that someday you will meet him at the entrance of your house, he will fall in love with you at first sight, and you will live happily ever after, but in real life such stories are extremely rare. Therefore, if there is a desire to meet a man from a certain social group, at least you need to appear in those places in which he happens. Not to mention the fact that in some cases it will not be superfluous to be active when meeting: smile, make it clear that you are interested in him, start a conversation.

Of course, humbly waiting for the prince, sooner or later you will wait for some man, but it is not a fact that this will be the person whom we would really like to see next to us. Is a bird in the hand always better than a crane in the sky? You can wait years for your happiness, and now you will go in search of it. It is easy to guess which method will lead to the desired positive result faster.

How to see your soul mate in a man?
A common case is when a woman, having determined who exactly she wants to see next to her, resolutely rejects the attempts of young people to show interest in her. Often girls think through everything up to the height of the beloved, the color of his eyes, the timbre of his voice, and all men who do not fit these strict criteria are rejected already at the stage of acquaintance. For a long time, such representatives of the fair sex remain lonely, wondering why there are no “decent men” around them.

It is likely that, being carried away by the removal of objectionable guys, the girl says “no” to men who quite fit the image of the man of her dreams. After all, it is impossible to understand by just one look what kind of person is in front of you, what kind of character he has, whether you will be comfortable together or not.

There are, of course, men, at the first glance at whom, you understand that there is no desire to check, how he is in communication, as far as he could fit into the role of the only one. I am glad that such characters are extremely rare in our lives. Men of less repulsive types need to be given a chance, communicate with them, get to know them, go on dates, because only in this way is it possible to find love, find happiness.

It is important to understand that you need to spend a decent amount of time looking for the man of your dreams. Disappointments, mistakes, unsuccessful relationships are inevitable. However, taking out of communication with everyone who meets on life path a man about what is important to you in a relationship, what qualities of a young man are valuable to you, what you cannot put up with, you will quickly decide who exactly you want to see next to you.

Having a clear understanding of who he is, the man of your dreams, excluding all conflicting requirements for a potential partner, understanding what such a man is interested in and where he happens to be, you can easily find the man of your dreams and make yourself and your future chosen one happy.

How to find the man of your dreams: 8 right tips + 5 effective ways start a conversation with a man first + tips on how to behave so as not to frighten him away.

I'm sure you are also familiar with this situation: the men with whom you start a relationship do not linger for a long time in your life?

You are smart and not bad-looking, and you earn good money. And the nose is no longer than that of Julia Roberts. It would seem that there is every opportunity to meet the man of your dreams, the so-called "prince on a white horse" ... or on a gray BMW ... you're not capricious, are you?

My last story: after the umpteenth number of dates, my dream man, as I thought then, simply did not call me ...

We're not proud, I thought. It's the 21st century and the word "feminism" has ceased to be an unknown overseas curse word. But, as you might expect, my buddy just didn't pick up the phone.

“So this is just not your man”, “But does a real man do this?” “Well, can this man be the man of your dreams?” - my friends assured me with one voice.

I agree, it can't. Tired of constant disappointments and, as a result, weekly gluttons, I firmly decided to end this. The question was before me: How to find the man of your dreams?

I am now in the truest sense of the word. About the exit, I mean, about the door.

My main mistake was that after the next break, I closed myself at home and ate. A lot of. It was impossible for my friends to pull me out of my lair.

Suffering at home, you can't find the man of your dreams!

Therefore, drink a glass of water (instead of another piece of cake), take a contrast shower - and forward, towards fate.

Be more often in any crowded places. Bars, museums, theater and cinema, parks. I believe in energy and energy. Therefore, it is important that during this period energy circulates around you, and you draw charges of vivacity and positive. Smile more, you are beautiful!

Sitting within four walls, the probability of finding the man of your dreams tends to zero.

Council number 2. Be like a pioneer, because the man of your dreams can meet you right today!

I mean, always ready. To new acquaintances and meetings, of course.

Always clean shiny hair, neat nails, fresh breath, neat wardrobe.

You don’t know exactly when fate will bring down a new acquaintance on you.

To always be in great shape is your sacred duty. We are not talking about a permanent heel and a pencil skirt.

By the way, personally, in “pencils” I feel like a sausage wrapped in cellophane. There can be no talk of any self-confidence.

But there are beauties who are always on top! Just look at them, why not equal yourself with the objects of worship of millions of men?

Victoria Beckham on her way to the coffee shop.
Simple black jeans, polished flat boots and an oversized sweater.
I would recommend experimenting with sweater colors. Pure blue shades, turquoise, blue are very refreshing.

Eva Longoria.
Agree, nothing special. But how neat, gentle and elegant.
She skilfully emphasized her swarthy complexion with pink and white tones.

Jessica Alba has long been famous for her ability to dress discreetly and spectacularly off the red carpet.
Jessica's everyday look. What do you think?

Surely you see the man of your dreams as a neat, stylish, handsome man who is well-mannered and endowed with a bunch of other virtues. Such a man will look at a woman in a shabby T-shirt? Like it or not, they love with their eyes, eyes-for-mi!!!

The first thing I did was clear out my wardrobe. I firmly believe that the more we give, the more we receive. Therefore, yesterday, homeless guys who constantly hang out under the porch were gifted with my T-shirts, jeans that were no longer fashionable, and 101 other things that were gathering dust in the closet.

Go shopping. Stop postponing for tomorrow with the words: I'll lose weight, then I'll buy it. You are beautiful at your weight. Lose weight - buy a new one!!!

PS. I hope that in the free space in the closet I will soon hang the ironed shirt of the man of my dreams.

You must have seen neat, neat beauties who have an eternal “muzzle with a rag,” as my mother says. They do not radiate anything positive, but only demand and drink energy from others.

Horrible, right?

The man of your dreams, if he is nearby, will subconsciously feel your energy background. Smile more often, fall in love with life! Surround yourself with only positive emotions.

Brew a cup of your favorite coffee, take out a notebook and a pen. Write a list of 30 items (at least!) about what you love to do/see/feel in life.

What gives you pleasure? Any little thing, like fresh flowers on kitchen table, waking up before sunrise, getting into a clean bed, body scrubs… Everything must be taken into account!

Do one thing from the list every day. Pamper and love yourself. It's what sets your mood. And your mood creates the character that creates your life.

So, do you still believe that you can meet the man of your dreams with the mood in which you read this article?

As a separate item, I want to highlight self-love.

You can endlessly make a list of qualities that the man of your dreams should have. You can imagine how he will burst into your life, save you from the dragon. And he will love you like no one else has ever...

Seriously?

The man of your dreams will most likely look at a woman in love. In love with myself.

Your credo should be:

• sport;
• proper nutrition and plenty of water;
• regular rest and sleep;
• positive literature and music.

And most importantly: you are a priori worthy of love. Just by the fact of your birth!

Before marriage, my friend Lidusya suffered from rough treatment by men. Well, she could not find the man of her dreams. The end of the relationship was the same: they accused her of all sins and went into the sunset.

Lida also blamed herself, so she punished the body with bad food and lack of attention to herself.

Guess what Lidusya changed in this vicious circle in order to eventually find the man of her dreams - Vovchik?

Council number 5. “There is only a moment between the past and the future…”

After another bachelorette party, in outgoing calls is the number of the former? Do you secretly think that Kolya was the best thing that happened to you, and do you keep his gifts?

If you firmly decided that you are ready to meet the man of your dreams, you will have to say goodbye to the past. Throw away all of your ex's gifts without regret. This is cargo.

Stop talking to failed lovers. Yes, and even with those that are “good for health”!

Be ready to find, and for this you need to find the strength in yourself to say NO to the past.

Yes, you got it right. Just take it and draw.

Whether with paints, pencils or a regular pen - create.

Hair color, height and build, facial expression. Perhaps he is holding the child's hand. Or near big house. Draw whatever you want.

Be sure to write a list of the qualities that you want to find in the man of your dreams below. For example:

• respects me as a person and a woman;

• kind to me and to my family;

  successful in career

  has similar interests to me (he also likes to run in the morning, so in the morning we go for a run together);

  we have the perfect sexual compatibility etc.

It is not difficult to guess that the qualities that you see in the man of your dreams, he will want to see in you.

Another way to find the man of your dreams is to ask your friends to introduce you to someone. Do you remember Igorek talking about his friend, a computer scientist, who just can't meet a girl?

I firmly believe that the more often, the better. You object that it is not worth wasting your time on ugly/fat/not rich, etc.? After all, you definitely won’t be able to find the man of your dreams!

I will answer that you should not pay attention only to pessimistic men, all the rest can be a gift of fate.

After spending the evening having a cheerful conversation with a fat man, you will leave about yourself good impression. And who knows who his cousin, who came to town on business, will turn out to be?

Do you remember the show of the same name? How much ice cream did I eat watching her?

The meaning of the show is that brides come to the studio, and the matchmaker helps them look for men. Or vice versa, not the point ...

Finding the man of your dreams is a difficult task, try to connect a professional matchmaker! She will select candidates for you according to your criteria about his appearance, work, hobbies, material well-being.

To be honest, it's not my method at all. But just because it doesn't suit me doesn't mean it won't suit you.

There are also so-called "advisers" - these are psychologists who help you understand what you want from the man of your dreams. Then you analyze together what needs to be done to achieve this. All you have to do is follow the instructions.

With these 8 points out of the way, it's time to take action.
I threw out half of my wardrobe, signed up for the training "How to love the woman inside you" and forbade myself to burst in Mac.
It's been 2 weeks and I'm ready for more drastic measures.

Tonight my girlfriends and I are going to a very trendy pub for a literary evening. And I do not intend to wait for mercy from nature.

How to start a conversation with the man of your dreams? Let's figure it out.

5 effective ways to start a conversation with the man of your dreams

IMPORTANT! Before you start a conversation with the man of your dreams, remember these rules:

Language of the body.

The back is straight, arms and legs are not crossed - after all, you are open to conversation.

You can intuitively repeat the movements of a man: leaned forward, talking about something important? Come forward and you.

Eyes to eyes.

One of the most important points of the conversation is the look.

A man will definitely remember a woman who easily and freely looks into her eyes.

Occasionally, you can shyly lower your eyes, flapping your cilia.

Attention.

It has been proven that a person loves to be listened to.

Ask questions and listen carefully to the answers.

Watch your speech. Speak calmly, not too loudly or quietly.
Add emotional color. But exactly as much as you would add spices to an incredibly tasty dish.

Give the palm.

Do not forget to give the man the initiative in the conversation.

Do not pour questions without letting him know about you.

Try to find a balance.

Now back to how to talk to the man of your dreams.

Method number 1. Common interests.

At the literary evening named after Marina Tsvetaeva, did that bearded man at the next table touch you? Ask him which poem he likes best.

In the park, the same lover of cycling pumps up the wheel? Drive up to him and ask with a smile, where did he manage to do so?

Method number 2. Ask for help.

Did you like the man? Do you suspect that he might be the man of your dreams?

Ask him to open a bottle of water for you. Help me find the right street. To lead home if a drunken company followed behind.

The man of your dreams will definitely want to feel like a hero. If he refuses to help, what kind of a man is he, and even dreams?

Method number 3. Be straightforward.

Do you remember how easy it was for us to get to know each other when we were kids? When you outgrow the teenage clamps, it becomes easier to make contact.

Men like women who are confident in their attractiveness. Just straighten your hair, openly smile and approach the man of your dreams with the words: “Good evening. My name is Valentina, what's yours?

Method number 4. Let him take the first step.

If you are still from the "shy", make sure that the man himself comes up to meet you.

First of all, try to catch his eye. Laugh loudly and cheerfully. The more bright energy you radiate, the more likely it is to attract his attention.

You can pass by several times, looking deep into your eyes. Nice games, I agree.

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An expert on revealing femininity answers this question and gives practical advice:

Method number 5. Ask for his opinion.

Are you together at the same event, summit, conference? Ask a man how he finds the speaker's performance? What do you think about the issues raised?

And remember that this is a dialogue. Be ready to express your position on the issue.

So, let's sum up.

After parting with another man, I decided at all costs to change the situation in personal life.

This raised the question: how to find the man of your dreams?

With my usual perseverance, I began to study the Internet and the experiences of my married friends. And you know, I believe that everyone will be able to find the man of their dreams.

And do you believe?

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Every girl dreams of meeting the perfect man. But to make such dreams come true, to bring them to life is a difficult task. There is no guarantee that you will find it, but there are some steps that are taken in the search.

Your friend's ideal man will not necessarily be the man of your own dreams. There are points between people who, when touching, make it clear on a subconscious level that it is worth staying together.

What is the ideal man?

The desire to combine what is not combined is a problem that stands in the way of creating harmonious relationships for most women. In search of the ideal man, women often want to get the impossible, to find a superman. We want the man to be the leader in the pair, but at the same time fulfill all the whims; , but also paid attention around the clock; he knew how to defend his own opinion, but at the same time he agreed with us in all matters.

Any girl in the mind has a list of qualities that a dream man possesses. Most often, when choosing a couple, a lot of attention is paid to his position in society, personality traits, hobbies, social circle. But it is worth understanding that it is almost impossible to meet a man endowed with all such qualities.

This does not mean that you should give up on your dreams and date the first guy you meet. The point here is that it will be necessary to filter some of the requirements for choosing a man. In other words, you need to determine for yourself which qualities play a big role, they must be, and which do not play a role. Please note that the more important qualities expose, the fewer men will fit the constructed image of the ideal.

Moreover, at the same time, other ladies who are not so picky in their choice, with their positive answers, reduce the number of men who are free for relationships. It is more correct to assume that the faster you give up categoricalness, the more choice you will get.

It must be remembered that along with the main qualities, other features will not be so pronounced, or will be completely invisible. The guy might have characteristics only one person. It is not possible for people to combine traits of different people in one personality.

If you want a relationship with a careerist, then it is foolish to count on meetings every day and calls every 10 minutes. There are 24 hours in a day. The ladies do not remember this and make claims to the guy, blaming him for selfishness and inattention. Although at first the lady was ready to build a family with this man. There are not so many ways out of the situation. A man will give up his career for a woman, but in this case, he will lose his attractiveness, because it was his position and position that were important to the woman. A more common option is when a man gets tired of constant claims, and he breaks off the relationship.

We create the image of the ideal man

Clarity is the strength that will make it easier to find your loved one. For a thorough and accurate search, create an image of a man, determine who you need. To get started, write a wish list or "wish-list". This exercise helps to structure requests, to understand what is important and what is not very important. Take a sheet and a pen. Remember how you used to write letters to Santa Claus and believed in a miracle. Now write whatever you like in the image best man What features should it have?

start with the manner of communication;
go to appearance;
describe occupation and income;
determine what goals the ideal man of your dreams should have: career, family, etc.;
describe the character and personality;
define family values.

It is important to think over each point so as not to miss the important. The more precisely you work, the sooner you will get the result. In the list, highlight exactly those qualities that play the most important role.

Now draw a portrait of the prince. This will help bring the image to life. Remember all the nuances and features: accessories, jewelry, hairstyle, clothes.

Another serious moment. You will need to create an image of a man with whom you never want to be around. Remember all your experience, write those qualities and traits that annoy you. And when you meet potential soul mates, test them through this list.

Now imagine that the man of your dreams is already nearby, that you will meet him very soon, get ready for this. To begin with, do a "cleaning" in your personal life, give up relationships that have no prospects. In addition, in addition to the right thoughts, move on to actions: buy beautiful underwear, buy new slippers for guests, a cup, free up your space for a future man, etc.

Thinking setting

In finding and creating the image of a dream guy, setting your own thinking is important:

understand yourself. It is important to realize your true desires, to distinguish them from the expectations of others. It is important to be honest with yourself about your own shortcomings. You will have to find a man who will consider them unimportant, but will appreciate your advantages. If you truly know yourself, then you are ready to meet the person of your dreams. If you are aware of your shortcomings and are ready to correct them, then you can easily cope with the problems that appear in a relationship;
don't expect perfection. If you find him, great. But remember that you yourself are not perfect, no one in the world is perfect. If you are looking for a 100% perfect man, then you will be left alone. It is important to be able to forgive mistakes and habits that are not of key importance. If you are waiting for the ideal, then you make too high demands;
find happiness in solitude. If you want to get ready to find the guy of your dreams, then you need to be pleased with yourself. It's important to feel inclusive developed personality, your life improves with the advent of the second half, and is not supplemented. In the life of every woman there should be a meaning without a man - work, friendship, interests. For personal growth and meeting the man of your dreams, you will need to find time for yourself, for your interests;

love yourself. This is a serious moment. If you are looking for the perfect man, it is important for you to love yourself. This does not mean that you will need to engage in narcissism, but you must like yourself, know your own disadvantages, understand yourself. You don't have to brag about how special you are. Remember this in your soul;
getting experience. Yes, you will need to extract some experience. This will make it clear what you need and before you find "your ideal". It happens that the man of your dreams meets on the way immediately after graduation from school or university, but most likely you will have to go through some disappointments. Dating the opposite sex will help you gain a better understanding of the right type for a relationship. Don't date people you definitely don't like. But communicate with different people, leave your comfort zone. Samples will help you realize that finding the man of your dreams is not easy.

How to find the guy of your dreams

If you still don’t understand how to find the guy of your dreams, then you should realize that you must become a girl,. What kind of guys are you interested in? What kind distinctive features do they have? To attract a perfect man, you yourself will have to possess the features that attract the opposite sex, and specifically the man of your own dreams. In addition, note the features that can help you. If you are a homebody, then you will become happy with the one who loves the house, housework.

Become active, find yourself a hobby, you can have several. If you take up a new business, start looking for yourself, you will certainly meet many new people who have the same interests as you. This increases the chance of meeting the ideal. If you do not have a hobby, then find the hidden talents in yourself. There are special trainings that help to reveal important aspects of the personality, to understand oneself, to find a golden mean, time for oneself.

The first impression never deceives. It must be positive. You don't have to be dressed in the latest fashion, but it's important to take care of yourself, or try to find a man with a similar character. Friendliness plays a serious role in building relationships. Do not be afraid to start a conversation first, say nice things to men, but without flattery. Smile more, not only to possible guys, but to everyone around you.

How to see the man of your dreams

It happens that a woman, when choosing the image that she wants to meet, does not know how to see the man of her dreams. She rejects all attempts by men who. Often ladies come up with all the nuances, up to height and eye color. For a long time, such women are left alone, I don’t understand why there is no “decent” man nearby.

There is a possibility that if you get carried away by sewing men, the girl will also refuse those who fit the created image of the ideal. After all, it is difficult at first glance to determine what kind of person you met.

Of course, there are men, at first glance it becomes clear that this is not the same one. But such personalities are rarely encountered on the way. And if a man has a consistent type, then give him a chance. Chat, get to know him, go on a date, because only in this way can you find the love of your life and find happiness.

It is worth realizing that it will take a lot of time to find the perfect man. Disappointments, failures and mistakes are inevitable. But, taking out something important from communication with each man, you will understand what plays a serious role in your character for you, what qualities are intolerable, what you will put up with and what you will not.

If you have a clear understanding of what the ideal man is for you, if you exclude incompatible requirements for an ideal guy, you will understand that he is interested in what she is doing, passionate about - you will certainly find the man of your dreams and find happiness and.

The main thing is to follow these tips, do not turn off the intended path. Highlight the main qualities and traits for yourself. This will help to attract the man of your dreams, to meet your own ideal.

February 3, 2014, 14:55

In this article, I will share with you what worked for me! For many years my personal life was completely stagnant. If I fell in love with a man, then in the end he turned out to be either completely different from what he seemed to be initially, or simply did not reciprocate: ((.

Yes, unfortunately, many women and girls had, or still have, such a problem - they cannot attract a worthy man of their dreams. Or a woman meets a man, she likes him initially, but they begin to communicate closer, meet, and he turns out to be not who she needs or even not what she seemed to be at first.

It also happens that a woman or a girl is alone for a long time, there have been no dates, courtship for a long time in her life, a woman needs male attention, dreams of attracting a man into her life, dreams of care and affection. So she begins to look closely, peer, finds attractive features in those people whom she would not have paid attention to before, but even this sometimes leads to the understanding that she did not feel comfortable, she did not find a truly close, dear, dear person!
But how, in this case, is it not just to attract a man into your life, but the man of your dreams, your soul mate? Speaking of how to understand which man is suitable for a long-term relationship, and which one is deceiving you, manipulating you, you can learn from the wonderful book by Rashid Kirranov “23 mistakes with men. First date mistakes- be sure to buy and read. At one time, this book became a desktop book for many of my friends.

In many ways, the problem of the absence of a man who would please a woman arises for those who have not formulated and formed the image of their man in their head. And how do you think the law of attraction will work if we do not know what or whom we want to attract into our lives? Is it just that there are women (and there are quite a few of them) who do not represent what particular man they would like to see next to them? They want to attract a man "in general", to be happy somehow "in general". As a result, they meet a "non-specific" man, and it is quite natural that he turns out to be "the wrong one." But how will she get a man if a woman does not even know what kind of man she wants to see in her life? How to put the law of attraction into action if we don’t know who we want to attract?

Or a woman wants to have a Holiday Man by her side, who would fill her life with joy, unusual events, surprises, actions. A partner with whom it is easy and fun to go through life. And she attributes these traits and manifestations to a man of a creative profession (artist, musician, artist, writer.) heavy in family life, depressive, even inattentive to loved ones. In no case do I call for thinking in clichés, imposing labels " big child"," Artist means windy. No, of course, I just want to show how important it is to understand what exactly a woman wants from a relationship, what kind of man she wants, and not to replace important “search criteria” with insignificant ones (so to speak), not to engage in self-deception!

That is why in order to attract a man into your life, first of all, you need to understand the specific image of a man with whom you would be comfortable and happy to live.

By the way, I recently read an article in a magazine (a small magazine distributed for free to read on the subway), the article was called “How to find the man of your dreams. Councils of psychologists. And it turned out that psychologists advise in many respects what I did. It was interesting and nice to know! Therefore, I want to tell you about my happy experience and place some advice from psychologists in the article.

My history:

I just didn’t feel that I wanted to be with this person for many years, to develop and improve our relationship. I did not feel constant delight and joy from the time spent with this or that man, did not feel the need to be the best for him, to make surprises, to surprise, to please. And after all, men weren’t somehow bad, no one offended me or cheated on me. But I did not feel true closeness, coziness, comfort, lightness, openness. Each time she ended the relationship, because she thought “no relationship is better than “inferior””. And then, one day, I told my friend that I don’t understand what is happening, and why can’t I meet the one I want? And a wise friend asked me, what exactly do I actually want? I tried to answer the question and realized that:

1. I do not quite imagine what I want, that is, I had a rather abstract idea of ​​\u200b\u200bthe desired happiness “in general”;

2. Even based on quite general ideas about the desired man, it is clear that my actions, my former choice of men do not quite correspond to my desires.

And then my wise friend advised me to calmly sit down and formulate, and then write down on paper, the image of the man of my dreams (what he looks like, what character he has, demeanor, what kind of relationship we have with him).

(Psychologists even advise to draw a portrait - how he will be dressed and what, maybe it's a suit, or maybe a sweater and jeans, ... what shape of his nose, eye shape, haircut).

And then I wrote a few sheets and realized what I really want! I described the important and fundamental qualities for me (internal and external), I described our relationship. I did not forget to indicate that I love him and he loves me (because until then I had only one thing). I even gave some specific examples of his behavior, words and deeds, options for our pastime.

(Psychologists advise to prescribe the type of activity of a man with whom a woman will be comfortable).

And since then, I began to understand myself much better and see around men who are similar to this particular image, and those who are actually far from it, my attention began to bypass, so as not to make mistakes and deceive myself.

(Psychologists recommend imagining that the man of your dreams is already there. In addition, they advise you to create conditions for the man who will appear in your life, to prepare a “place” for him, even in the literal sense - to get “guest” slippers, 1 more mug, a plate, buy big bed. And, besides, beautiful linen, a beautiful dressing gown. That is, wait for him, be prepared for the fact that he will appear soon).

I also thought about what kind of woman I want to be in order to be next to such a man ?! And a desire began to arise, and then actions: I began to change my worldview in some points, began to change my perception of myself, attitude towards myself, began to partially change my appearance to develop in certain areas of knowledge and skills. And in general, I decided for myself that it is important not to walk with searching eyes and in a state of constant anxious expectation, but to develop myself, to be interesting to myself, to live interestingly, then over time I will meet Him and will definitely like and be interesting to him.

But, of course, it is also important to look around and notice the people around you!

(Psychologists write: “you can be absolutely sure that the meeting will take place at the very moment when you least expect it”).

When the image of your man lives and strengthens inside you, your meeting will happen easily and unexpectedly, you just see him and recognize him, and he will understand that it is you, that you are the one.

That's exactly what happened to me. I won't say it was love at first sight. But from the moment of the first meeting, HE sunk into my soul, I remembered it, and then I was unconsciously, but irresistibly, drawn to him. And in the process of our meetings, communication, I realized more and more clearly that this is exactly the person whose image I formed and carried in myself. And now we are together, we love each other and we are very happy. So never doubt that the law of attraction works. The main thing is to concentrate on the image every day for at least a few months and be sure to write down what or whom you dream about.

It works. Just understand what he is, your dream man? Clearly form his image and enjoy the fact that you will have just such a man. And after a while you will definitely be together! But it's also important to consider what other beliefs you were given as a child. After all, what your parents inspired you is now being implemented in your life. At one time, I studied a lot according to the book of Anastasia Guy and according to her articles. Which is what I recommend to you. Anastasia's articles can be found in the "Relations between a man and a woman" section, and her books in our online store

Sincerely, O.I.

Difficult question, isn't it? After all, dreams are dreams, and reality is merciless with its steadfastness. And you can dream as much as you like, how you accidentally go out to the store for a croissant with chocolate and meet him. And you can actively search, get acquainted, pull yourself out to all kinds of parties, meetings, exhibitions, but in the same way you won’t meet anyone. To choose the right position, it is not always worth listening to the advice of your friends, even if everything worked out perfectly for them in their personal lives. You may well have a different understanding of how your man should be, from the understanding of even the best friend. By the way, stop listening to close friends is the first step in the plan that you need to complete in order to get closer to meeting your man.

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1. "Something is wrong with him"

Phrases like this will eradicate all applicants from your life without even giving you a proper look at them. Therefore, if you met him in a cafe, gym or while walking a dog, do not rush to bring him to the court of a friend / mother / sister. Emotionally close relationships with them can prevent you from opening up to a man. After all, his place is already taken. You have someone to spend evenings with, share news and plans for the future.

2. Free up space

To meet the man of your dreams, you must definitely prepare a place for him. Until you dare to be alone with yourself, not clinging to noisy groups of friends, bachelorette parties and weekends with your sister, her husband and children, you will not see a prince on a white horse. You just can't see him, busy complaining to your girlfriends that "normal men are gone," or gossip about another office romance. When you decide to meet yourself, accept yourself and the fact that while you are alone, then you will be ready for a real, high-quality relationship. By the way, just in case, I’ll clarify: if you are in a relationship with a man, but you convince yourself that “this is not for long”, you are engaged in self-deception. Either decide to leave this relationship, or work on it so that your current partner becomes that perfect one.

3. Become a self-sufficient person

You have probably heard the expression “So two lonelinesses met”. Therefore, while you are looking for, clinging to more or less good options, you will interfere with the meeting with your Big Man. Engage in self-development, attend seminars, learn languages, decide on an internship abroad.

As soon as you let activity into your life, many interesting men will appear around you. But important point: you should really engage in self-development, and not pretend until the first meeting with the “suitable option”. You want to meet a non-superficial person, then why should you be empty? Like attracts like. Remember this.

4. Develop your femininity

Now the boundaries between only male and only female qualities are practically erased. But it is femininity that attracts strong and responsible men. According to Oleg Torsunov, the main female qualities are as follows: trust in a man, kindness, self-doubt (yes, this is not a typo!), the ability to forgive, take care of others and bring beauty to the environment. Now I will explain in more detail:

Confidence. Since we are talking about a potential meeting with the man of your dreams, you need to set yourself up for the fact that you trust life and meet the person you need. You can repeat to yourself the mood: "Mine will always be mine." And do not rush to push away the man you meet if he does not have a car or an apartment that you have drawn in your head. The main thing is that you believe in him and that he can achieve this. And he, in turn, will do everything to justify your trust!

Kindness. Statements like "Men love bitches" come from angry women. A man wants warmth, acceptance, support. Why does he need a relationship? Believe me, not to "keep him in good shape" or "not to relax." The kinder and more responsive you are, the more chances you have to attract a man into your life who can become your protector and strong shoulder.

Uncertainty in their abilities. You don’t need to earn for two, you don’t need to stop a galloping horse and pay off a loan for an apartment yourself. A man should be concerned about this. Allow yourself to be fragile and defenseless, then you will definitely meet a person who will help you cope with worldly storms.

The ability to forgive. Nothing spoils a woman so much as vindictiveness, pettiness and counting grievances. Let go of past grievances against men, fear of betrayal (even if it was in your life). In a new relationship, you should not take the luggage of the previous bad experience. A little naivety doesn't hurt. Nothing captivates a man like a naive female look.

Caring for others. Many studies have confirmed that women are more responsive than men. It is our nature to love animals and children, to do charity work, to help others. Feminine beauty is manifested in sincere care.

Bringing beauty into the environment. If you think only about your figure, hairstyle, makeup and manicure, you are depriving yourself of part of your feminine power. A woman should be beautiful and well-groomed, but the space around her should be like that. Therefore, the ability to choose things, make trinkets and decorations in the DIY (do it yourself) style will be very useful to you. Like the ability to bake a cake or cook a delicious soup. It is not for nothing that princesses in fairy tales are usually jacks of all trades. There can be a beautiful aura around you - it all depends on you!

5. Don't run after men

In this sense, the show “Marry the Bachelor” is a wonderful example of how not to do it. This man must prove that he is worthy of you, and win your love, not you. Do not call, do not hunt for the perfect option. If he did not notice you, then this is not your man. No matter how much you think that you are very suitable for each other, if he does not take the initiative, then this is not so. Take on board a funny phrase: "If a man does not call you, then he is dead." For your plans for serious relationship Yes sir. The same applies to "disappearances" - there is a week, a wonderful weekend, and then for some time there is no hearing or spirit. Don't believe in any excuses. For this type of man, there is a wonderful Delete key.

Don't install. I have nothing against dream collages, visual boards (we'll talk about this separately sometime). But it is very important not to miss the real person behind the invented image in the head. You need to decide what is most important to you in a relationship. And you should not get hung up on the obligatory presence of a pumped-up torso or an apartment in the center of Kyiv. He can always go to the gym, earn a lot of money, for this he must have determination and strength of character. Therefore, pay attention to his personality, and not to superficial qualities.

6. Open up to relationships

This is a very important point. Until you are ready, no man of your dreams will reach your heart. You just won't see him. Like in the movie Stardust: "You can't see a star even if it talks to you." While you live with thoughts about the past or the present, you feel resentment towards men, you are afraid of disappointments, you put it off for later (I’ll live a bit for myself!), You won’t meet him. I repeat, work on yourself: start with yourself, become the woman of your dreams, and then the man of your dreams will not keep you waiting long.

As you can see, everything is not so difficult, you just need to first honestly answer the question why I have not yet met that one, and start actively working on my mistakes. Good luck!