How to visit a cemetery? A question that worries many relatives of deceased people.

It turns out that in the old days there were beliefs that our great-grandmothers adhered to.

Traditionally, many superstitions are associated with cemeteries, which, by the way, are not groundless. Signs on the graveyard can warn of impending danger, so burials should be visited with the utmost care. Yes, and the signs seen at the resting places must be treated carefully.
First of all, you need to remember - in no case should you disturb the dead, this will entail trouble. It is also not worth coming to them empty-handed, bring sweets that you leave on the grave.

In order not to "take away" from the cemetery to the house of misfortune and misfortune, psychics advise to adhere to simple rules of conduct.

Alexander Zhukov, psychic: “The very first thing is that you need to enter the cemetery correctly, in order not to leave your luck, happiness there, and most importantly, to “attach” various diseases.
You must enter the cemetery with open hands if you are carrying a bag - you can not pinch it in the palm of your hand. It must be hung over the arm so that all fingers and hands are open.
This is done in order not to bring anything with you, just the good that is in your life today.

At the same time, one should not forget about what can and cannot be said at the resting places. With deceased relatives, you can share your experiences, but not complain, namely share. However words should not cause envy or excessive pity: in both cases, the dead can "take" you to them.
Remember to afford you can only be open with the relative you trusted during your lifetime and with whom they were close.

There is such a sign: What good you say on the grave, then it will remain on it. A phrase like: “I feel so bad, I want to die ...” can become fatal. The spirits of the cemetery may take this as a call to action.

In addition, one should not forget that not everyone can talk with the dead, as well as come to the cemetery.

Alexander Zhukov, psychic: “I’ll say right away - pregnant women are not allowed in the cemetery! Not for a funeral, not for Mother's Day. Generally it is impossible. According to signs, the following events can occur:

The souls of the dead will take the soul of the unborn baby with them;
. an alien soul can settle in an unborn child.

This sign has been preserved for a long time and has been associated with high infant mortality and the danger of difficult childbirth in pregnant women. Now this sign is not so relevant, so treat it wisely.
If a pregnant woman needs to say goodbye to the deceased, or visit the graves of relatives at the call of her heart, then she should wear something red, tie her hand with a red thread, or keep a piece of red fabric in her pocket.

And by no means Do not bring children under 12 years old to the cemetery. This is very dangerous for the health of the child and his future. You can completely change the fate of a child! From a mystical point of view, the aura of children is very weak, and it is difficult for children to protect themselves from the penetration of negative energy.

It is forbidden coming to a funeral to say goodbye to one person, visit at the same time the graves of other people resting nearby.

Violation of at least one of the rules can entail the attraction of a large amount of negative information, which, like a weight, will pull you to the ground.

Memorial visit to the cemetery

Undoubtedly, paying the last debt to the deceased and honoring his memory by being present at the funeral is an indicator of the moral and ethical standards prescribed by society.

The cemetery is a special place. It "connects" the world of the living and the world of the dead. Therefore, it is necessary to treat him with respect and observe certain signs and rules of behavior so as not to anger the dead and not pay for your disrespect.

❧ To visit the cemetery, you need to carefully prepare, paying special attention to your clothes. Traditional colors are white and black. More than anything black color for graveyard, since it is considered mourning, a color symbolizing grief. If you don't have clothes in the right colors in your wardrobe, you should choose clothes in muted tones.

❧ Legs must be covered. It is unacceptable to walk around the cemetery in open sandals or high-heeled shoes. The churchyard is a place of accumulation of "dead" energy, the earth is especially strongly saturated with it. There is a saying: the dead pull the living. It can be regarded as a warning - the cemetery earth, falling on bare skin, negatively affects a person. First of all, the negative impact affects his health.

❧ At the cemetery before noon, after noon at the church. It is better to visit deceased relatives before dinner, otherwise in the afternoon the spirits can play a trick on those who came.

❧ You can’t swear in the cemetery - all the swearing will remain on you. It really is true. Everything bad that is said in the cemetery falls on the shoulders of the one who spoke out. There may not even be any other options. At the cemetery, one must be especially careful both in statements and in deeds. In general, staying at the cemetery, you must be very careful. Attentiveness and courtesy are those qualities that are highly valued by the deceased. This is the case when the idea that life does not end after death is of particular importance. Therefore, it is necessary to show respect for those who have already left, otherwise they can punish.

❧ If you bring a beautiful bouquet, it's great, just don't neglect the recommendation to bring an even number of colors.
Throwing out wilted flowers, you should replace them with new ones and explain to the deceased why this is being done.

❧ If when planting flowers, digging on the grave some odd things came up, foreign objects, you need to take them out of the cemetery and throw them away. Ideally, burn it, trying not to get caught in the smoke.
Things on the graves could be left by sorcerers, causing damage. Taking such an object, a person takes part of the damage on himself.

❧ A week after Easter, it is customary to come to the cemetery to commemorate relatives and friends. Eating at the cemetery, or, which is very common among the Slavs, drinking strong (alcoholic) drinks is also prohibited.
Negative energy accumulates in the cemetery, this place is not conducive to fun, people come here with grief. Food absorbs all this, and after eating you can feel unhealthy.
The Christian church also insists on not having a wake in the cemetery. Trizna came to the cemetery from pagan times, when, after burial, funeral rites were performed on mounds. Christianity does not support the tradition of paganism. Although disputes about this custom are still being conducted by church theorists.
It is better to give alms to the poor and visit the temple, order a memorial service for the deceased - this way of honoring the dead is more acceptable and spiritually useful.

❧ If you still adhere to the tradition of commemorating the deceased with a glass of vodka at the grave, then remember only good things about them and drink without clinking glasses, so as not to throw trouble from one house to another.

Signs in the cemetery

There are many signs about the cemetery. Even people who are deeply indifferent to superstitions try to adhere to them. Such is this place. No one knows what the world of the dead can bring, so it's better to take the signs carefully.

❧ Grave Defilers, cemetery thieves, a sad fate awaits, for they are pursued by evil fate.

❧ Stumble in the graveyard- not good. Even worse - fall. Signs advise you to immediately leave the cemetery, wash yourself with holy water, cross yourself and read the prayer “Our Father” three times.
Believe me, it does not matter to the soul where you will remember it - in a cemetery or in a temple, or in a conversation with relatives. The main thing is that you be sincere and that these memories have a bright, kind shade.

❧ As already mentioned, there is a superstition that the cemetery you can not talk about the successes and achievements of your life and not to leave everything here.

❧ Also it is not allowed to count money in the cemetery otherwise you may not see them again. If the bill was taken out of the wallet, or if it fell to the ground at all, it must be left on the grave of a relative or namesake in order to pay off possible poverty and premature death.

❧ Basically, any item that falls on graveyard ground no longer belongs to its living owner. You shouldn't lift it. If the thing is really needed, you need to leave a ransom for the deceased and the owner of the cemetery - a bottle of vodka and sweets.

❧ From the cemetery by no means you can't bring anything home(this does not apply to sweets that children collect, since they commemorate all the dead with them). This will harm the one who took the things, and the people who used them.
Do not take anything from the cemetery and do not bring it into the house, no matter how valuable it is. According to signs, you will take it from the dead, and they will punish you with troubles and illnesses.
This thing can cause harm not only to the one who brought this thing home from the cemetery, but also to any other person who picks it up.

Important! Handkerchiefs with tears during the funeral are also thrown, digging in the grave, they are not taken out of the cemetery!

❧ Do not take pictures in the cemetery; stay surrounded by negative energy in the picture, and who knows how this will affect your destiny.
Taking pictures against the background of many graves, you capture the invisible world of the spirits of the dead and otherworldly beings, who will later easily find their way to your home.

Sign of a broken tombstone

❧ A monument or a cross has fallen for no reason, which means that the soul of the deceased did not complete important things for her, something worries her.

There are also forgotten, outdated signs that are believed only in the outback, in villages where modern customs have not yet reached. So, a priori, the sign of a broken tombstone cannot promise anything pleasant and kind. If the monument deteriorated without human intervention, and did not suffer from the hands of vandals and looters, then in the near future there will be another dead person in the family of the deceased.

It doesn’t matter what damage the burial site received: whether the cross simply broke, the tombstone or the pedestal itself cracked, or the earth sank and a deep hole formed - each change threatens the relatives of the person lying here with another death. You can understand who the old woman with the scythe will look for next time by determining which side the earth has collapsed from:

• from the south side - a man dies;
• the north side "fell" - a woman will die;
• the eastern edge sank - an elderly family member dies;
• from the western side, the earth has left - death will take a small child.

❧ Suicides can only be commemorated when a bird pecks at the grain scattered on their graves. Several grains of wheat are sprinkled on the suicide's grave and they look from afar: if the bird does not peck at those grains, then there is no need to commemorate the deceased, except for Saturdays to Dmitriev and All Saints.

❧ If you know you will be visiting a cemetery, bring water with you and Be sure to wash your hands and face when you leave. to remove negative energy.

❧ Do not drink the water that flows in the plumbing system located on the territory of the cemetery. It is used only for cleaning graves and monuments. Water for drinking should be stocked up at home before visiting the cemetery.

❧ Make sure you don't forget anything at the cemetery when you leave, Forgotten things are spoiled.

❧ Always leave the cemetery the way you came. But when visiting the dead, it is better to choose different roads, at least go around your own street and go to the house from the other side.

❧ Leaving the cemetery, you can not turn back, even if you were called or called. It is believed that the dead souls wander among the graves and do not realize that they no longer have a place in the world of the living. When a person turns around, the deceased soul may take this as an invitation to follow a living person. As a result, a visitor to the graveyard will bring a dead person to his house, who can cause a lot of trouble to the inhabitants of the house.

❧ Signs also say that after visiting the cemetery it is important to dry your feet thoroughly, so as not to cause home graveyard land. This land can bring a lot of health problems, it carries bad energy.

❧ After leaving the cemetery and coming home, it is important to warm your hands (even if you are not cold)- hold in hot water, over fire.
It is best to light a church candle with matches (only with them) and warm your hands over it. Bring the palms of your hands as close to the candle flame as you can bear. Move and “burn” the entire area of ​​\u200b\u200bthe palms and fingers in this way.
After that, the candle can not be blown out, gently extinguish it with your fingers. This is done in order not to bring death into the house, not to drag it onto oneself, not to get sick.

❧ No one can visit anyone from the funeral- you will bring death to the house to the person to whom you stopped by. But it is advisable to wrap up somewhere in a public place before you return home. It is believed that the tradition of commemoration in the dining room or cafe is the consequences of this sign.

cat in the graveyard

It has long been known that the dead are able to transmit information through various animals: birds, cats, dogs. No wonder birds in the old days were considered the embodiment of souls that had lost their human bodies. But the birds flying over the graveyard or the house where the deceased lies are not as dangerous as the cat, which, remember, was considered a mythical, sacred animal even among the ancient Egyptians.

In the dwelling where death occurred, pets were immediately removed, isolated - so that the spirit of the deceased would not settle down with his pet.

The appearance of a cat in the cemetery is interpreted as follows:

• if the cat lies on the grave or walks nearby, try to leave this place - most likely, there is a strong anomalous zone that destroys the human aura;
• if the cat is black, then perhaps the witch went out for a walk, or is it the rushing soul of a sinner;
• a white cat - the soul of a righteous man who has not completed his journey on earth, warns of impending danger or illness;
• if the cat just slipped past you in the cemetery - be calm - it's just someone's spirit came to look at a new friend, that is, at the one who is being buried.

In any case, treat the cat with respect - do not beat or drive it away, it is better to distract yourself from yourself (if it has followed you) with some kind of gift.

❧ A good sign for a person who has gone to the next world and his relatives is finding in the prepared grave of an old, earlier burial with intact bones. An old belief says that the deceased in the afterlife will find solace, and will not bother his relatives, appearing to them in dreams and hallucinations.

Numerous signs and superstitions to the people present at the cemetery are full of secrets that the souls of the dead want to convey to them. Perhaps you saw, being at the funeral ceremony of someone close, how the astral body leaves the body shell that has become unnecessary. This happens at the moment when the first handful of earth touches the lid of the coffin. According to the sign, the soul takes off either laughing or crying, mourning.
Based on materials from grimuar.ru, mistic-world.ru, charybary.ru

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Cemeteries are supposed to be located south of the church; on the north side, only suicides and stillborn babies are buried.

Graves are dug in the direction from east to west, and the coffin with the body is laid with its feet to the east - according to legend, in order to make it easier to rise on the Day of Judgment.

Even if you do not believe in omens, you should not violate the ethics of visiting places of mourning... All the rituals associated with the dead appeared for a reason and it is not in vain that people protect their traditions.

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Hello. Tell me please. 1. My deceased grandmother was a believer, went to church, kept fasts, soon the anniversary of her death. The question arose whether it was possible to take a photograph in a headscarf on the monument or not. The photographer says that everyone takes a photo with their heads uncovered. But my grandmother wore a headscarf almost all the time. 2. Do I need to consecrate the monument? Thank you.

Natalia

1. Of course, you can take a photo in a headscarf. You want to see a familiar face when you visit her grave. 2. You can invite a priest to the cemetery on the anniversary day to perform a memorial service, and if the monument was recently erected, then it can be consecrated at the same time.

Deacon Elijah Kokin

Hello! A year ago, my mother died after a long serious illness, she was unbaptized. All this time, almost every night I dream, sometimes very bad, sometimes good, then scolds, then calls, then instructs. I don’t believe in dreams, I try not to attach importance to them, but for some reason it’s scary, I became twitchy, I’m afraid to go to bed. I pray at home every day for her, and I put candles in the church, I go to the cemetery, but I still dream. Maybe you just shouldn't pay attention to these dreams?

margarita

You are doing the right thing not attaching much importance to these dreams, it’s just that you may feel guilty about something in front of your mother, so you see disturbing dreams. Maybe you think that you did not pay enough attention to her during her illness, maybe you are worried that she died unbaptized. Be that as it may, now everything is behind, now you need to entrust everything related to your mother to the Lord. And although it is impossible to commemorate your mother in church, you are absolutely right to pray for her in your home prayer.

Deacon Elijah Kokin

Hello! I took my daughter with me to my mother at the cemetery, and she lost her favorite toy there - what does this mean? And is it worth worrying about, or is there nothing to worry about? Thanks in advance.

Julia

Hello Julia! Of course, you don't need to worry. Drive away evil thoughts from yourself, superstition is a sin. The loss of a toy only means that now you have to buy a new one for your daughter.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Hello, father. Tell me, please, what should we do?! A year and a half ago, our grandmother, my mother's mother, died, we loved her very much, she was a deeply religious person. On Honey Spas, my mother, having arrived at the cemetery, found that all the flowers were torn out on her grave, some kind of gray wool was lying, and near the grave in the fence - a dead white cat. The grave of the grandfather, who is buried nearby, has not been touched. We removed everything from the grave. They ordered a memorial service in the temple, lit candles on the grave. We don't know if we did the right thing, please help us. Thank you for your reply.

Lisa

Dear Lisa, You did everything right. Don't worry, and pray to the Lord for these vandals who "know not what they are doing."

Priest Alexander Babushkin

Good afternoon, father! Help me with advice, please. My friend constantly turns for "help" to some psychics, astrologers, fortune-tellers, although she herself is a believer and goes to church. From childhood, my grandmother inspired me that all sorts of predictions, fortune-telling, whispering, and so on are a great sin, and that the most correct way to solve your problems is to turn to God through prayer. I never went to fortune tellers and avoided all kinds of psychics. Recently, my friend began to persuade me to go to a very good woman, who helped her recover from a female disease with various herbs and suggested to her that she should pray to various saints and light candles. Naturally, I reacted to this normally, it seems like it doesn’t look like magic, more like traditional medicine. Then I found out that one of our mutual acquaintances succumbed to persuasion and went, but this woman began to perform some rituals with her, said to bake fish liver at home, go to the cemetery, then come to the funeral service in the church and whisper something to the deceased. Can it be so? I heard that these superpowers can have a different nature, both from God and from a demon. In my opinion, all these rituals look like some kind of demonism. How can I convince my friend not to go there anymore?

Elena

The magic you wrote about has only one source. As well as this kind of "superpowers". Study in detail the site http://sueverie.net/, this will help you to understand this issue yourself and, God forbid, convince your girlfriend.

Archpriest Andrey Efanov

Good afternoon. My dad died 3 weeks ago, I was very worried about this, but now some strange feeling has come, I live as before (I rejoice, have fun, rest). The fact is that I cannot accept his death, for me he is still alive, even in the cemetery, approaching the grave, it seems to me that another person is lying there, unfamiliar to me. Please tell me how I should actually behave, I am very tormented by the fact that I am behaving incorrectly. Can't my behavior seem strange from the outside, that I don't care about the death of a loved one? Thanks in advance.

Julia

Dear Julia, most likely, you just have such a mental reaction, a kind of defense mechanism. Pray for the repose of your father - at home yourself and, if he is baptized, then by all means in the church - order a commemoration at the Liturgy, Sorokoust. Over time, you will be able to accept his transition to another world. As for death, with God all people are alive. This is what we must live by, treating the death of loved ones as a temporary separation.

Archpriest Andrey Efanov

Hello. My cat recently died, just 21 days before her 15th birthday. I buried her in the pet cemetery. I try not to think about it, but I can't help thinking. My eyes are constantly in a wet place, because I loved her so much, and she me too. And now I feel empty, and there is no one to support me especially, everyone has their own affairs, and I have to go through my grief alone. Tell me, please, what are the prayers for the speedy reassurance, and is it possible to pray for a dead animal? I really hope for your answer.

Love

Dear Love! We pray for the repose of people, because all people are sinners. As the prayer for the dead says, "There is no man who lives and does not sin." So we ask God to forgive the deceased person and repose him. And animals, of course, have no sins, and you don’t need to ask the Lord for their forgiveness. If animals suffer in life, it is only because of human sins. If your cat, who died at such an advanced age, suffered before death, then now her suffering is over. But, of course, you yourself need prayer. May God help you to endure the pain of loss and, having coped with grief, think about your soul.

Priest Alexander Gumerov

Is it possible to put a fence in the cemetery of the deceased up to forty days

Alexander

Yes, of course you can

Deacon Elijah Kokin

Good afternoon! I ask you to answer one insoluble and very controversial question for us. It's been three years since my mom is with us. Her father visits her grave every week, my brother and I believe that it is possible to come and not so often, especially since my father is already advanced in age and he gets upset after visiting. How to be and who is right? How often can you come? Thanks in advance.

Well, who can be right in this situation? You can't tell your heart. Apparently, for your father there is so little left in this life that visiting the grave of his wife is very important for him. Personally, I would not interfere with this, but you are his children and you decide for yourself. In general, he could provide real help to your mother not only by visiting the grave, but also by praying for the deceased. You can pray at the cemetery, you can also at home. But, if you want your father to go to the cemetery less often, you yourself must pay more attention to your father, fill at least partially the void in his soul that formed after the death of his wife.

Archpriest Andrey Efanov

Good afternoon, fathers. Bless. My question is this: please tell me, can a house carry a negative? I live near a cemetery. Parents died early, children do not want to live in this house, and I live alone. I do not know what is the reason and how to be?

Kseniya

Hello Xenia.
The cemetery reminds of the frailty of human existence, so people with little church or non-believers feel uncomfortable next to it.
Maybe that's why your children don't want to live in a house near a cemetery.
If you don't like the area where you live, maybe change?
If there is no such desire, and you have not yet consecrated the apartment, call the priest, pray and live blessed.
May God help you

Priest Sergiy Osipov

Hello, father! Tell me, please, I'm pregnant, 3 months old, can I go to church? I actually go occasionally, but they say that pregnant women should not go to church or to the cemetery.

Faith

Hello Vera.
It is possible and necessary.
Let the child now hear prayers and church singing. For him, the temple will be his home.
What you have been told is nonsense. Ignore such restrictions.
God bless you

Priest Sergiy Osipov

Hello, father. Help with a word. I am 27 years old. 2 months ago, my baby died in the womb at the 9th month, the reasons are unclear. Everything just broke off in a matter of minutes, they managed to save me, but the baby didn’t. I think about him every day and cry. But before, in my youth, out of stupidity, I committed a terrible sin (abortion) I don’t even know how to live now. I understand that all my life now I have to repent and bear this terrible sin. Tell me, do I need to go to the baby in the cemetery, and what should I do now?

Faith

Hello Vera. First of all, pray for the baby, although he is not baptized (only in the church you do not need to write it in notes). You can give alms to the extent possible. Still pray that, if there is the will of God, the next pregnancy will go well. You have probably already confessed to the sin of abortion (if not, it must be done!), so now only heartfelt contrition about what you did long ago can remain. If this memory weighs on you, you can read the Jesus Prayer, or "Hail Mary, Virgin," several times. There is no need to be discouraged. May God help you

Priest Sergiy Osipov

Good afternoon! Tell me, how should one relate to dreams of such content: funeral wreaths, the death of a relative, and everything like that, or are all dreams from demons or the devil? Do you need to believe in them? I wanted to clarify one more question, tell me, when should the gate be opened and closed at the grave? Thank you very much for the answer.

Olga

Dear Olga, if you often dream of a funeral theme, you need to go to the temple for confession as soon as possible. When you are inside the fence, the gate can be opened, when you leave - close, as you close the front door of your apartment. If the cemetery is rural, then you need to close it securely so that some wild animal does not run in.

Priest Alexander Babushkin

Hello. My dad died 17 days ago. I am very sorry. I read every day a prayer for the repose of a parent. Whenever possible, I go to the temple and order various prayer services. I myself pray as best I can, I know that he really needs it now. And recently I learned from a three-year-old niece that she was talking with her grandfather (my dad). She said he spoke to her himself. On different days, she gave me one or two phrases from her grandfather, moreover, phrases that she herself, as a child, would not think of coming up with. Can dad talk to us through his niece? She very coolly gives out phrases without thinking about the meaning. For example, my sister and I were very offended by relatives who covered themselves with stupid excuses so as not to come and remember their father, and quarreled with them. We are very sorry about this. So, the next day, our girl gave us: "Grandfather, he said that we should not touch him." There were other cases as well. I don't know how to react to this. According to her, our dad asks to come to him at the cemetery. But we go there anyway. Maybe we're not doing it right?

Marina

Dear Marina, a similar phenomenon, when children come into contact with spirits, most often demons, is common enough to be discounted. Although, of course, the reason may be in the strong suggestibility of the child or in something else. You go to church, so take your niece with you, take communion with her, I hope that this phenomenon will stop. In general, this usually happens in an environment where they are ready to listen to such "revelations". Don't pay attention and it will all be over soon. But the child must still attend the temple regularly and participate in the ordinances. God bless you!

Archpriest Andrey Efanov

Father, I haven't visited my grandmother's grave for 15 years. I don’t know how, but I felt a strong desire to go - it’s not far, 20 km, but the heat is terrible here, and the cemetery is far from the city. I found the grave after a long search, kind people showed me. Found that the monument was stolen. I felt very sorry for my grandmother. What to do to help the posthumous fate of her sweet soul? Tell me, I beg you. The Lord is with you!

Koleva Nina

Pray for her. And live in such a way that prayer is easy. Monuments are important for the living, but the dead need something else - prayer and a good memory of them. Prayer is both individual and church. If your grandmother was baptized, submit a note about her to the proskomedia. I will quote the words of St. John (Maximovich): “Anyone who wishes to show his love for the dead and give them real help can best do this by praying for them, and especially by commemoration at the Liturgy, when the particles seized for the living and the dead are immersed in the Blood of the Lord with the words: "Wash, O Lord, the sins of those who were commemorated here by Your honest Blood, by the prayers of Your saints." Therefore, it is so important to submit notes in church for baptized people with their names. You can periodically order a magpie about the repose of your grandmother, or at least a one-time proskomedia, as well as submit notes for a memorial service for the deceased.

Priest Konstantin Kravtsov

Hello, father, tell me, please, is it possible to take an unnecessary metal fence for a flower garden from the cemetery to the garden, the relatives of the deceased allowed, but we don’t know if it is possible to bring something from the cemetery into the house?

Rimma

Dear Rimma, it is impossible to take anything from the cemetery for household needs, not because it is unclean, but because it is sanctified. After all, a cemetery is a resting place for bodies, which, according to the words of the Apostle Paul, "are the temple of the Holy Spirit living in you" (1 Cor. 6, 19). Therefore, it is necessary to treat cemeteries with the greatest reverence and, of course, you cannot use anything in your home life, for example, a grave fence.

Archpriest Andrey Efanov

14.10.2013 | 20:29

Today we will talk about how to behave in a cemetery - how to behave in a cemetery. What does right mean? This means that there are special laws that everyone must follow. Failure to comply with these laws leads to sad consequences for those who make a mistake. As the saying goes, ignorance of the law is no excuse.

There are certain rules of behavior in the cemetery. There is nothing tricky and complicated in them, these are very simple and obvious things for many. However, as a practicing magician, I meet people who have problems precisely because of the violation of these rules of behavior in the cemetery. Therefore, I decided to write this article.

There will be no special rituals or practices in it - the article is designed for ordinary people who are far from practicing magic.

I will answer questions on how to properly care for the dead, what can and cannot be done at the cemetery, what to bring with you to the dead and what you can take away from him, how to care for the grave, and so on. In general, these are ordinary things, about which, having read once, you will never be mistaken in the future.

So, how to behave in a cemetery. You come to your dead relatives and acquaintances in the cemetery in order to honor their memory. Usually these are pre-planned trips, so you can prepare well for such a trip.

Cemetery Code of Conduct #1 - Properly Prepare for a Cemetery Trip

First of all, pay attention to your clothes. Maybe short skirts and trendy coral color suit you, but! You are not going to show yourself, but to honor the dead. The colors of the cemetery are black and white. Black is preferable, as it is also considered a mourning color. If you find it difficult to find suitable clothes in these colors, then just do not dress brightly. The dead don't like bright colors.

Choose from the clothes in your wardrobe in muted colors. In addition (and this is especially important!) your legs should be completely covered - pants or a long skirt to the floor will be the most appropriate clothing. This is not a fashion, this is the rule of conduct in a cemetery. This is exactly the moment that for many is fatal. So I repeat - your legs must be completely covered!

Never wear open shoes for trips to the cemetery. Always choose only closed shoes, even if it's hot outside. In extreme cases, take a changeable closed pair of shoes with you, which you put on before entering the cemetery and take it off immediately when you leave it.

The most extreme option for spontaneous trips to the cemetery when you are in sandals is to put ordinary shoe covers or plastic bags over your shoes. This is also true in wet weather, when you are wearing shoes that get wet.

Why are closed legs and feet an indisputable rule of behavior in a cemetery? This is a property of the world, a property of dead energy, which many have heard about, but many do not use. "The dead pulls the living."

This means that the dead earth, dust from the dead earth, settling on your body, leads to the imposition of dead energy on your living one. The property of the world lies in the fact that the living sooner or later becomes dead, but not dead - alive. Therefore, this energy will influence according to its natural property.

Usually such an imposition of dead energy on a living person leads to diseases of the latter. Which one exactly? Most often, the legs suffer - heaviness, fatigue, congestion (in the circulation of blood and lymph in the legs).

But speaking in general, dead energy is deposited due to its gravity in the three lower energy centers (chakras), and the symptoms may correspond to disturbances in the work of each of them. I am talking about this first of all, because this is the most common mistake due to ignorance of the rules, how to behave in a cemetery.

Let's say you don't know about such a rule of behavior in a cemetery, and your hair falls from your head to the grave. What will happen? A certain mechanism is launched (the same one that magicians use for the above damage).

The consequences are that the dead, on whose grave a hair has fallen, has access to your head, to your consciousness, your mind. And now he can influence your thoughts, “whisper” something to you and so on; the saddest consequence of what can be "earned" in this way is a corresponding psychiatric diagnosis with all the consequences that come from it.

In addition, there is damage, for which the hair of the victim is placed on the grave in a cross shape. This leads to the fact that the fate of the victim changes in a negative direction. Therefore, be careful, because when combing, more than one hair may fall out, and suddenly these two hairs, according to the law of meanness, will fall on the grave just like that.

The same security measures apply to any other biological material - do not spit on dead earth, and you can not go to the toilet in the cemetery. If, sorry, "impatient", go outside the cemetery to relieve yourself.

I am also talking about those toilets that are located on the territory of the cemetery - you should not go there either. Toilets should be behind the cemetery fence and nothing else; if the toilet is inside, then it is always the case that the living is in contact with the dead.

In addition, they often conjure in such toilets - they throw off, for example, a trifle. This little thing is thrown off for a reason. The one who takes this trifle for himself, takes away with it any illness or poverty from the one who threw it off. Once on your stool, it will work out of your will, and you will have no idea where this fell on you from.

Any burial places are places with which many signs are associated. This is due to the fact that people are worried about being close to the dead. To relieve their anxiety a little, they begin to believe in signs and perform protective rituals. For example, a closed gate in a cemetery is considered an unkind sign.

Why can't you go to the cemetery in the evening?

Mediums believe that visiting the churchyard should be before noon. At this time, the energy exchange between the world of the living and the dead is the weakest. Having visited the grave of a relative before lunch, a person will practically not receive negative energy.

After 12 hours, energy exchange increases. People with poor health or the elderly may feel bad in the cemetery at this time. After noon, you should not go there pregnant, so as not to bring trouble to the unborn child.

If you visit the burial place in the evening, then you should expect the following consequences: migraine, dizziness, sudden mood swings, lethargy, etc.

However, these symptoms do not necessarily appear in all people. Individuals with strong energy can stay in the cemetery for a long time at any time and not feel a deterioration in well-being. But still, esotericists do not advise joking with such things and recommend cleaning up the grave and honoring the memory of the deceased before lunch or, in extreme cases, up to 4 hours.

However, there is a practical aspect here. Many cemeteries are not guarded, there is no normal lighting. Therefore, drunkards and other anti-social personalities can wander there, a meeting with which can end badly. Stray dogs also wander into such places. They are dangerous when in packs.

Why shouldn't the gate be closed?

There is an interesting sign associated with the burial culture and the gate. She, like a fence, according to popular beliefs has the ability to hold negative energy.

If there are still living people inside the fence near the grave, then it is absolutely impossible even to cover the gate. It is believed that negative energy will spread to them, as it will not find a way out.

Another point concerns the closing of the gate when there is no one inside the fence. Superstitious people in this case do not consider it necessary to lock the gate. They just cover it up. It is explained simply - the deceased also needs to “communicate” with others dead. A fully closed gate will not allow him to do this.

Someone considers it necessary to keep the gate wide open next to the grave of a suicide. True, for what reasons the belief appeared is not exactly known.

Some close the gate for quite rational reasons. They do not want stray animals to approach the grave of their friend or relative.

By the way, in many countries there are no fences around graves in cemeteries at all. Our citizens do this mainly for convenience and religious reasons. After all, the fence allows you to accurately mark the boundaries of the site in the cemetery, where you can install a table and benches.

Many families come to the churchyard during significant Orthodox holidays to commemorate the deceased. Make it psychologically more comfortable inside the fence.

Why can't you turn around in the cemetery?

According to the sign, you should not turn around when leaving the churchyard. Especially if a person has recently buried a relative. His soul or the soul of another dead person will take this as an invitation to follow the living. The restless spirit will settle in the house of an unlucky visitor to the cemetery and cause a lot of trouble.

Some even felt as if someone called them by name when they left the burial place. It is important to avoid the temptation to turn around, otherwise it will not be easy to get rid of the spirit.

Also, after visiting the churchyard, it is advisable to go to some other place (cafe, forest, gas station, etc.), and not immediately return home. This will allow you to get rid of bad energy and not bring it with you.

The attitude of Orthodox priests to signs

The vast majority of people subject to superstition consider themselves believers. But the church has a negative attitude towards any signs, such as closing the gate, fear of turning around in the cemetery, etc. You should not succumb to the fear of superstition for the following reasons:

1. Faith in power will take away from God. After all, if a person is sure that impure forces, due to some action, are capable of harming him or his relatives, then he is more like a pagan with magical thinking, and not like a Christian;
2. A person sets himself up for bad things in advance. If you accidentally fall into a cemetery and forget about it, then nothing bad will happen. But when compassionate people inform a stumbler that now terrible events await him, this affects his emotional state. He will be nervous and restless all day. This is what will cause him to spill hot tea on himself in frustrated feelings or break the headlight during an unsuccessful parking. If he had not kept in his head the sign told to him, then none of this would have happened;
3. Insulting the memory of the deceased. When a person comes to the grave of a relative or acquaintance who has gone to another world, then all thoughts should be only about the deceased. It is better to devote yourself entirely to pleasant memories. If a person spends mental efforts on feeding his superstitions (no matter how much he drops something on the ground, leaves the gate closed, etc.), then this would hardly please the deceased if he were alive.

Certainly, some of them are connected with quite rational ideas. For example, the superstition that pregnant women should not visit the cemetery. This really should not be done by an impressionable girl who does not need any extra worries.

But if a beloved and very close person has died, then she will probably want to say goodbye to him. Relatives should not intimidate her with signs. It is required to morally support her and be near the cemetery in case the girl suddenly becomes ill and needs to be taken home.

Why can't you take anything from the cemetery?

It is believed that any thing, even a little lying on the grave ground, is saturated with negative energy. Therefore, a ring or brand new leather gloves found on the graveyard will bring a lot of sadness to the new owners.

When an expensive thing, such as a gold jewelry or a smartphone, accidentally fell to the ground, then you need to leave a "payoff" to the spirits of the cemetery. It should be something insignificant, but still having at least a minimal value. Instead of a dropped item, a coin, candy, key chain, notebook, etc. is immediately placed on the ground.

Other interesting signs regarding the cemetery

There are several signs associated with burial places:

• You can't count money near graves. If the bill fell to the ground from the pocket, then it is advisable not to pick it up;
• A cat that is next to a funeral procession is a bad omen. It should be driven away, but without the use of loud swear words and even more so brute force. It is best to lure her aside with a treat that will distract her from the procession;
• You can’t take photos at the cemetery, and even more so, keep pictures from the funeral at home. A person will capture negative energy in a photo. She will attract evil invisible entities to the house, which will cause misfortune;
• Walk to the cemetery;
• Quarrels and even just verbal altercations in the cemetery are unacceptable. Those who decide to sort things out near the graves run the risk of living most of their lives in constant showdowns with relatives, neighbors and colleagues.

This is a small part of the signs regarding such a sad place as a cemetery. The desire to leave the gate open is just a drop in a large sea of ​​superstitions. If a person is used to not closing it and it is psychologically easier for him, then you should not try to convince him of the opposite.

But still, a believer or materialist who knows the basics of Orthodoxy will not bother his head with such things.

Video: Do ​​I need to close the fence?

In this video, Elena Shchukina will tell you whether it is necessary to leave a gate in the fence of the grave of the deceased after her visit to the cemetery: